I haven't said anything about the passing of Prop 8 because I don't know how anyone could think it was a good idea. I can't even begin to understand it. And it makes me so angry that this is legal, in this day and age, as they say, that I can't speak or write rationally about it. How about this:
I don't want to be associated in any way with people who would deny gay people the right to marry.
People who are against gay marriage are afraid that the gays will destroy marriage. They are afraid that if we make it okay for one man to marry another, or for one woman to marry another, soon it will be allowed for one man to marry a cow, or one woman to marry a fencepost. I categorically reject this line of thinking and hereby announce that we can't be friends if you believe this. I am of the age now where I am not only responsible for my own actions, but how the actions of others reflect on me. If I hang out with people who are, by my definition, oppressive and cruel, I am complicit in their oppression and cruelty. I can't in good conscience be part of it.
In my view, it is the same law as the anti-miscegenation laws of the 1960s, which kept white people from marrying members of other races. That law would have made my love for Kyle and his for me a punishable offense. If you support Proposition 8, you are against my love; you are against me. And if you're against me, you should find some other friend.
See? Too angry. Obama says that hoping is okay, that it is, in some way, profitable. I want to talk about permanent, legally binding gay marriage like it's on the near horizon, but I can't right now. I'm too sad.
But I saw this picture (via Jezebel) from one of the Prop 8 protests and I think it says what I want to say.
Other bloggers are loath to influence their readers in any way, but on this front, I am not. If I can influence even one of you out there to do the right thing, then I hope this works.
Remember: when it comes to be your turn to decide whether or not gay people should be able to marry...you need to vote yes. You need to vote FOR gay marriage.
I promise - it's just love. And you may get to go to some really great receptions.
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